1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked.
Most
of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others'
affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our
way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not
conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right
direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of
individuality and consequently the existence of God.
God
has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can
think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they
do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business
and you will keep your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget.
This
is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill
feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We
nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep,
development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or
injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by
constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to
waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and march on. Love flourishes
in giving and forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave For Recognition.
This
world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without
selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power,
but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement
and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yourself
in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the
aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not Be Jealous.
We
all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind.
You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but
sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business
several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose
business is only one year old. There are several examples like these
in everyday life.
Should
you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her
destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be
rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no
one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for
your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take
away your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment.
If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured.
This
is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we
face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that
are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change them, we
must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them
cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of
patience, inner strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew.
This
maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more
responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to
satisfy our ego. Know your limitations.. Why take on additional loads
that may create more worries?
You
cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce
your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and
meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you
restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.
8. Meditate Regularly.
Meditation
calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest
state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate
earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become
peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours.
Your
mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit
by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think
that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this
will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better
results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant.
An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind.
Your
hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more
money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even
when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or
mental chanting of God's name.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret.
Do
not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?"
Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental
debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate
all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be
done. It does not matter if you fail the first time.
You
can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back
and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not
brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to
happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?
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